This saying that it is not my hand should not be used by anyone and it is not accepted because we are human and do not act according to animal instincts.
Being told that it’s not my fault, I get anxious, I get angry, I worry, this is not accepted because we have a cortex in our brain and we can make decisions beyond instinct.
Also, we should not have emotional reactions and we should decide to act and it should be accompanied by reflection and not reaction.